Marriage is a life changing step in one’s life. Marriage is a turning point in a person’s life. Before marriage, life is independently, and the person thinks only about himself or herself later on after the wedding all decisions and actions are taking keeping in mind the consideration of the partner and two families. Marriage means a legal union of two people as a partner in a personal relationship (reunion of man and women). For a marriage to happen, the absolute requirement is that they should know each other entirely and have a good understanding with each other. During our parental generations, men and women who were about to get married were not allowed to meet before marriage. It may happen that they don’t like each other behavior or pattern of thinking after marriage and that leads to either adjustment in life or separation. Some people make a compromise in their lives by adjusting with a life partner whereas some people want the separation also known as divorce.
Getting divorced is not just about deciding, but also it is a sudden shift in life. Divorce affects both the families and particularly children of the couple that is going through the phase.
We are enlisting the ten effects of divorce on children. Have a look.
Children cant see their parents quarrels or arguments when their parents are living happily. But when the divorce thing happens, it brings disputes, heated statements and some other extreme situations in the house. Therefore, if children witness all this, they may undergo depression and anxiety. They become nervous and fearful. It can cause mental disorders that are not desirable at any stage of life.
9. Mood Swings And Irritability
Children get influenced by whatever happening around them. If their parents showcase mood swings and irritability, they do the same even with familiar people. They may become asocial with time and make themselves alone. For any children, it is necessary for the growth to be in an excellent social environment. Isolating themselves may affect the growth of the children. They start getting irritated with the smallest possible thing as they think nobody understands them.
8. Strong Grief
When the family members continuously discuss the divorce case or separation of people, goods, and maybe emotions, children experience an intense phenomenon of constant and robust grief. They feel sad about going to two different homes as their parents live separately when the process is going on. Children feel anxious when they look at their friend’s happy family. They always feel the lack of it. In everyone’s life, there are moments when we hope both the parents to be with us. The children of a divorced couple may feel sad about missing out on such occasions.
7. Children Feel Hopeless
After the divorce, children feel lost as they don’t get enough emotional support from both parents as parents themselves are going through emotional trauma. If a child lives with a single parent with no access to another parent, the situation may get worse. All this makes the children hopeless and aimless in their crucial growth period.
6. Social Problems
Children may become violent and antisocial when the parents separate. If they are young, they may develop bad habits and take a highway to crimes. They may become disobedient and arrogant. As far as school going children are concerned, they may feel embarrassed at the parent-teacher meeting as their parents will come separately.
5. Divorce Can Make Them Wrong With Relationships
When children see the failed marriage, the doubt about love and relationships start coming. They always have trust issues and negative thinking about any relationship. If they get into one, their partner may face the problem of arrogance and trust issues. Whatever they have seen during the divorce, stays in their mind even if they grow into an adult. They suddenly start behaving like their parents, and that may ruin the relationship.
Drugs and alcohol are substances that can attract adolescent people very quickly when they are facing emotional problems in their lives. With time, the intake may increase which can affect the children mentally, physically and socially. As they become arrogant, they will not listen to anyone’s advice, even if their parents tell them, they won’t listen.
3. Poor Academic Performance
Divorce may lessen the wish of learning new things in children. It may lead to drastic changes in the results of children. They will not focus on class and other activities. They will not perform appropriately in class as well as exams. A mentally disturbed child may leave the class and school which is not desirable at all. Education is a crucial factor in one’s career growth.
2. Feeling Of Insecurity
As there is no emotional support, children whose parents are divorced may feel insecure about their identity and existence. They suffer an existential crisis as they can’t find any aims and goals to move further. Not just life, they become insecure about the people they used to love. It is awful for emotional growth. A weak child cannot achieve things as it always lacks concentration and confidence. Children want both the parents, but the divorce disturbs the chain and makes children insecure.
1.A Lack Of Understanding
Children will never understand the logic behind the divorce. They always think that why parents can’t live together just like other couples. They feel abandoned and confused because there is still a lack of understanding about the divorce. If remarriage happens, that confuses them even more. It takes time to adjust to the new guardian.
Usually, family members and parents don’t talk clearly about it when divorce happens, and hence children feel left-out and clueless about everything. All these things make them confused about everything eventually. They start day dreaming and lose mindfulness. Though these things seem temporary, can cause a higher impact on children’s mind and brain.
Bottom line :
Divorce cannot be stopped if both the partners are not happy with the relation and marriage. Divorce happens due to the occurrence of quarrels and arguments between the couple. The person should take care of the following things. Firstly, One should understand the other partner, and if things are still not working out, then there is no way later divorce. Secondly, Parents should understand the feeling and emotions of the kids and should make them understand the things by keeping in mind their mind set. Thirdly, Most of the time, during their growth period, they face various problems where they need both of the parents but if you are a single parent then don’t let them feel alone or different. Forth, Do not pour your frustration or irritation on them. That may affect them mentally. After all, they need emotional support too. Fifth, Tell your family members to behave normally in front of them. Sixth, If parents want to discuss something, they should be clear about it else your children may get confused and get the phobia of relations forever. Lastly,
Happy marriages are the best, but if you just came out of the divorce then it is okay! Support yourself and most importantly, your children.
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