Kids do the darndest things, don’t they? Agreed, raising a kid is no cakewalk: bathing them, washing them, scolding them, but also…loving them when they’re not very lovable. Children aren’t everyone’s cup of tea, but nobody forgets a well-mannered child. Here are ten important values every kid should be taught from the day they begin to do the walk-n-talk.
Honestly, if we knew how to accept different perspectives and opinions, the world would be a much better place. That’s why this is another important value your child should learn: accepting that each person is a unique individual with his or her own experiences that have shaped the way they look at the world, the way they talk, react, or think. Teach your child to appreciate this diversity rather than be offended by it. It will make a world of difference, not just to your child, but also to the people that he or she spends time with. At the same time, though, teach them to accept themselves—as they are, however they are. Let them know that loving and accepting your own self isn’t just important, but necessary.
Using stubbornness when required. Integrity is important when it comes to making big life decisions such as a career and family life. But that’s too far off for your kid as of now, so why not start teaching him or her about sticking by their decisions from the learning age itself? If your child wants chocolate and mint ice cream, then chocolate and mint ice cream it is! No changing once he or she has the cone in their hand. Imparting these values through relatable ways is the best way to get your child to wrap their head around them.
- NO means NO
Impart the significance of another person’s choice from an early age itself: the older your child grows the more he or she will understand the importance of it. Also teach your child when to say no themselves, and how to be firm about it—along with what to do if the other person just refuses to listen.
This particular value is vastly, and sadly, underrated, but is one of the most important lessons you could ever teach your child. Time is always of the essence, and when a meeting has been decided at a set interval, that is when one is expected to be present there. Deadlines are called deadlines for a reason, and they should be abided by at all costs. Imbibing this value in your child from an early age will teach him or her to always plan ahead, be a great executor, and give a good impression.
And I don’t mean the ‘Respect your elders solely because they are older than you.’ Respect is always a two-way street—if it is given, it should be returned as well. Basic human respect is deserved by everyone, and your child should not have to fight for it, nor should he or she deny anyone of it.
Privacy is knowing when to mind your own damn business. We have enough nosepoking going on in this world of ours that seems to thrive on gossip, and we all have been on both ends of the vicious cycle at least once in our lives. Teach your child that there are certain questions we don’t ask, certain times when we don’t speak unless spoken to. On the other hand, teach them also to not go talking about their problems to the whole wide world. Sure, people do ask, but most of them are just curious, and sometimes silence really is golden. Teach them how to keep people’s secrets—they’re told to you because they trust you to keep them, and they’re called secrets for a reason.
And by honesty I mean not punishing them just because they ate the whole carton of ice cream and actually admitted it when you asked. Remember, the minute you start punishing a child for his or her honesty is the minute they start lying to you; which is quite obvious because you’re not approachable to them anymore. Let them know that you’re there for them no matter what, all you want is for them to be truthful about it—not just to you, but to anyone who asks.
Everyone needs help sometimes, but how many really do help? In today’s dog-eat-dog world, a little assistance is rare to be found—let that rarity be a part of your child’s personality: helping others when they need it. However, one should be careful that the child doesn’t help a little too much, causing him or her to be doing someone else’s work themselves! Teach them to differentiate and distinguish between those who truly need assistance and those who are just looking for favours.
Now, this one is partially dependent on how the parents think. However, simply encouraging a child to voice his or her beliefs with confidence can do wonders! Sure, they may go wrong sometimes, but that’s what you’re there for, isn’t it? To correct your child when she or he goes wrong? Teaching them in subtle ways about sensitivity, kindred acts and equality from an age where they’re developing the fastest is sowing the seeds for a great personality, and which parent doesn’t want that, right?
- The Magic Words
Seriously, they’re called magic words for a reason. Please, thank you and I’m sorry go a long, long way, folks. Please teaches them to request politely, and makes them learn that they can’t get everything in life by throwing a fit. Thank you, quite obviously, teaches them gratitude: be it something big, or something really small, a thank you can make a person’s day without you even knowing it, and getting one from a kid makes it all the more happier. And last but definitely not the least, apologizing. It’s an art even us adults haven’t mastered. But teaching kids to say sorry when they go wrong teaches them the value of forgiveness, of letting go, and not holding grudges. So what if the big guy at lunch period ate all your kid’s food? That doesn’t mean he glues the boy’s hands together instead of going to the teacher!
Children learn incredibly fast when they’re young, and this is the best time to impart good teachings and values to them to make them a better human being. In this day and age, it is of utmost importance to raise a generation free of negativity, judgmental attitudes and offensive mindsets. We all dream of a world where we are accepted with our flaws, our shortcomings, and the realization that nobody is perfect. Here’s hoping this article helped at least a few parents, if not most.