It might be on the verge of getting over. Or it might be over. Either way it would make you suffer enormously. Many might not even agree that their relationship has come to an ending point. The biggest reason for their refusal to accept arises from the fact that there are several signs that one tends to ignore while in a relationship. They are right in front of you as red glaring signs. But such is your denial and fear of dealing with singlehood that you tend to avoid or ignore it. In such avoidance or negligence so to say, you not only increase your sufferings but also tend to move away from being truly happy ever again. Your relationship is hanging by a noose and all you think about is how to save it. It is maybe time to face the reality no matter how heartbreaking it may appear. In back of your mind, you very well know where things between you two are heading towards. Be bold enough to accept it. End it before it breaks you. Read the following ten signs that you have been avoiding lately. Now is the time of you to have a reality check.
- Everything seems alluring than staying together
So lately, you prefer doing things rather than staying with your partner. You jump on the first chance or idea of a friend to go partying. Even a boring business trip that you had a chance to say no to suddenly seems like a little vacation plan. Here, you are looking for ways to escape or avoid meeting your partner. Your romantic idea of a rendezvous has been replaced for sure. What has come in its place is a feeling of scrutiny that you undergo when with your ‘special one.’
- Lying about your whereabouts
You don’t want to be followed or nagged by your partner. You certainly are fed up of being tracked down. So it seems better to lie in order to enjoy some time by yourself and not next to him/her. So your friend’s place becomes your workplace. There seems to be some sort of refuge that you find in lying. It gives you a good chance to hide or remain in seclusion for some time. The biggest glitch comes in when you don’t feel even a little hint of guilt in lying to her/him. You clearly want your time away from your partner.
- Little arguments crop up
Recently little and insignificant arguments have started taking up most of the time that you two spend together. After a certain point of time you even tend to forget what the issue was about altogether. This simply stresses on the futility of the issues that you two have been arguing about. After having undergone the repetitive headache it’s maybe time for you to realize that this is not what you signed up for. Letting yourself go through such scenarios time and again is inflicting torcher upon yourself for sure. You should rather muster up some courage and walk out of such a relationship that is making you devoid of your peace in life.
- Constant disapproval of each other
What came across as sweet and tender to you before now seems to be an issue of disapproval amidst the two of you. You might have liked his messy and carefree attitude before but now that is something that tests your patience. Or you might have adored the way she got along with your group and now it annoys you along with making you feel uncomfortable. There is something or the other between in every relationship that becomes a matter of disapproval. But when the ‘something’ extends and proliferates to every other aspect of the life that you two share, then it’s a time to deliberate over it. You would have to deliberate over whether you still want to stand such a feeling or not.
- More of talking and less of listening
You don’t exactly enjoy being glued to your phone hearing your partner narrate their daily stories anymore. The same ringtone that was music to your ears seems like a siren now of cutting the call and running away. Now that must have come across as a blatant use of a hyperbole, but then isn’t that really the precise description of your situation now? You have a right to talk and be heard. If your partner is refusing to compromise with her/his position of being the talker, then you just know what is to be done.
- Constantly being ignored
It is natural to feel ignored once in a while. Before being somebody’s partner, you are a human being. Human beings are entitled to all sorts of emotions and feelings. But there also comes a limit to each of those feelings or thoughts. Always dwelling in the thought of being left alone or abandoned despite being in a relationship simply denotes the extent of your worsened situation. S/he might ignore you once or twice. But seeing that become a habit you need to step away from it.
- Meeting each other is now a routine
The bubbly excitement of seeing each other in the early months of your relationship is perhaps now only a fragment of your memory. No matter how hard you try, you fail to undergo that excitement now. Leave alone the eagerness, seeing your partner now is more of a routine work. Now, love might not always be about showing your exhilaration on meeting your loved one in grand gestures. But, it surely does mean not taking it as a part of your tedious routine. You do realize your changing approach to your relationship. Don’t you?
It may be considered normal to badmouth about someone whom you have just started dating. But doing the same regarding someone whom you have dated for months now or probably years is a big no no. It is even a bigger glaring sign to make you reflect on your standing in your relationship. You don’t fear about the consequences of what might happen if your partner comes to know of your back biting him. You might not even want it to last for long now. Not only are you going behind the one you love and discussing your differences amongst your people, but you are also transgressing his/her trust. Why even be in such a relationship where you have the urge to go around bitching?
- Cribbing for attention
Turning overtly sensitive or emotional was never your thing. But that is exactly what you have turned into now. You constantly end up throwing tantrums like a child cribbing for the attention of your partner. You desire being his/her center of attention for your insecurity drives you to do so. Emerging out as a better person should be the goal while in a relationship and not the other way round.
- Stark differences in ambitions
A connection is all about celebrating differences amongst two individuals with cooperation and love. But what is to be done when the differences being talked about are no small ones. There might be stark dissimilarities between what the two of you want from life. There may not even be negligible room for working out those differences. You eventually will have to move out of your relationship. It would be better putting an end to it as soon as you realize.
You can minimize the victimization that you and your partner are undergoing in the garb of the dragged relationship of yours.