Exchanging engagement ring with your lover is the most cherished moment. Tying wedding knots with your fiancé is a forever beautiful memory. How after getting married one fantasizes of utopia with the better half. Life suddenly becomes beautiful as a flower shower. One feels soaked in love. From the most special wedding eve to the delightful honeymoon phase, everything gets rosy. And then there is the prettiest thought of a “Happily Ever After”. But with turning of calendar one feels that life isn’t a bed of roses. Couples need to remember that to live the “best” marriage life there isn’t any magical wand. Respect, love, honesty and efforts are the pillars of this lifetime companionship.
Spice up your relation with 10 Tips to Make Your Marriage Last Forever!
10. Never compare your married life with others!
This is the first mistake and the first lesson. You never know what is going in other’s married life until you step into their shoes. They might act as the cutest couple at social gatherings but complete monsters at home. They might be exchanging filthy rich gifts but passing kisses to a colleague. And you are not going to compromise like that. Or are you? Nobody reveals their secrets and problems. Remember “All that glitters isn’t gold”. So stop poking nose in others love-life and never crave to have a married life like them.
9. Balance the distance!
Recall the time when you wanted some “alone” time or when you were excited about having a night out with “only” your friends. So why does your blood boil when your partner yearns for the same? Whenever your sweetheart wants some private time, give them generously and don’t feel that you are now less important. Giving each other some own space is a must and it will ignite your love life when you guys reunite.
But remember excess of everything is bad. Never let distance widen the gap between you two. Keep the scales in equilibrium. When he/she is away for too long, express happiness for what he/she is doing and how you are excited to celebrate their come back. If you are the one going out, text them “I wish you were here” and trust me, your partner is not going to grumble for being away.
8. Appreciation is a beautiful therapy!
It is no news that women go head over heels when complimented. But even men are equally hungry for words of appreciation. We thank our partner for grand surprises but what we miss are the small things. When your wife packs you your favorite lunch or when your hubby comes home on time, feed them with appreciatory words.
Appreciate when she waits to dine with you when you come from work late night.
Appreciate when he chooses “you” over his beloved sleep.
Appreciation makes one feel recognized and will make them do that corresponding thing more often. Appreciation DOES add years to your relationship!
7. Don’t go overboard with fighting!
When you fight, do it to win his/her heart and not to win the argument. Remember, it is just another fight and not a war which you must win. Admitting own mistake and saying, “I’m sorry” has never made anybody look small. Come on! Save your relationship and not your ego. If the fault isn’t yours then the best option is to wait, cuddle your darling and melt the heat in their head. Learn to give up sometimes if you want your marriage to sustain longer. You definitely don’t want any intense fight waiting to be printed on divorce papers.
6. Accept each other’s flaws!
Are you a perfect 100 on 100? Well, nobody is and stick this in your mind. When you exchanged vows you pretty much expected your partner to accept you with all your flaws. You get hurt when your partner picks on your flaws. So don’t do this to them as well. Treat each other the way you want to be treated.
You can’t be like, “I will love you only if you give up getting fumed” or “if you stop being a lazy bee”. Your love must be unconditional and this will bind you together for decades.
5. Be each other’s moral support!
Do you know when does your spouse need you the most? When they are broke- financially or emotionally or in any other sorts. Light them up and lit them up when it is dark and they are going to be thankful to you for lifetime. Hold their hand firmly and be their backup. Emotional support is one of the biggest success factors in any marriage. Encourage them to do better and bring out the best in them. This really strengthens your marriage’s foundation.
4. Push expectations out of the window!
Expectations never did well to anybody. Lowering your expectation level is certainly the key to a successful marriage. One really can’t be reading others mind all the time and be known of the expectations. Unfulfilled expectations lead to ugly situations and bitter feelings towards each other. It is like a silent and slow poison for your marriage life. Don’t let this sour world of expectations murder the sweet world of your matrimony.
3. Spice up and spark up your marriage!
What is a relationship without playful flirting and sensational touching! Think of zesty ways to turn your sweetheart on and heat up seduction in bed. Some days you might be too tired or not in mood to be physically passionate. But never underestimate the magic of physical touch. Kiss each other good night daily. Hug each other every time you leave for work. Hold hands whenever in public.
Adopt some love surprises monthly. Give your relation the twist of adventure love and your marriage is going to survive till the end.
2. Communicate. A lot!
You are unhappy because you two don’t spend enough time together. You are worried and need somebody to listen. You feel alone and look for a warm hug. Everybody feels so! But our mistake is to wait for things to happen on their own. Why wait for such pleasures and comforts? Speak your heart out to your partner and get what you want.
Further, there is a golden tip. No matter how soaked you were in work, at the end of day, sit together, spend 10 minutes and tell each other what you did all the day.
Trust me, this will let your partner know how occupied you were and they shall not beef about for being busy, hence marriage span gets longer.
1. Recall the reason why you tied knots!
Go down the memory lane and reminisce the day you declared merrily about getting wedded to your partner. Remember the butterflies in belly, the tingling down the spine, love in the air and what not! You didn’t celebrate the wedding day to finish it off while living. If your relationship was at its loveliest phase at that time, you can rejuvenate it now as well. Just put the same efforts and feel the same way.
Your marriage does deserve a silver, golden and diamond jubilee! Give your children some serious marriage goals! Cheers to your another wedding day and work for many more decades! So what are you doing for your darling today?