We love our relatives. Ofcourse we do. They come with gifts and blessings for all. And if the gifts are not there, then some chocolates or sweets for sure are. But there is one little glitch here. These relatives whom we really appreciate for turning up on every family occasion become a matter of grave annoyance in one aspect. Some of you by now must have got the idea already. Every family has some members who take a special interest in your life. That special interest might be seen in the form of unasked as well as untimely advices. There would be frequent questions about your future plans which would be inclusive of education plus marriage. If only they knew that these are issues that you yourself have not deliberated upon. Exempting the use of any exaggerations, it is true that you are bored and annoyed to death by their repeated interference and interest in your life. If you happen to be an unlucky one, then you are likely to find yourself surrounded with numerous relatives of this kind. Expressing your utmost irritation right to their face is sadly not a very good option. However, there are some ideas that can definitely help you to avoid their nagging all the time. Read the following 10 points and help yourself.
- Exam over relatives
You need to state forth your priorities very clearly. Education with good grades would be the thing that would be helpful and not sitting and entertaining the questions of those relatives of yours. Let your parents know of the important exam or the assignment that you need to submit the next day. Doing so, you would save yourself from the trouble of getting out of your room. It would also keep you at bay from laughing on their prodding remarks which they think to be pretty witty.
- Group project can save you too
Everyone knows group projects cannot be done at home individually. All the group members ought to assemble at one place and work on it. Make a good excuse of a group project at your friend’s place. You may even choose your college library where you would be having to stay back for long hours. Having informed about the same to your parents, you must let know of your plan to the ones whom you plan to include in this. Afterall you wouldn’t like to get caught.
- Call in sick hours before
You know that they would arrive within a few hours. It is natural for you to feel your frustration level being pumped up. Why not use that frustration in a constructive way. Channelize your energy in such a direction that it benefits you. Start complaining of a very bad headache. With every minute show no signs of relief from the pain. Tell everybody how it is bothering you. Having done so, go and sleep all warm in your bed. You won’t be woken up for your people around for sure would want you to have some rest. No matter how childish this may sound, but it would be helpful undoubtedly.
- Cater to your friend instead
The moment you are reminded of your special relative coming to your place, put on a poker face. Act as if you simply forgot that today was the date that they were to arrive. Due to your lack of good memory you invited over your friend whom you had not met in ages. Now invitation to an old chum cannot be cancelled. Instead of being stuck and catering to your nosy relatives, you would rather get a go at being chatty with your long forgotten friend. That is a good deal indeed.
- Stick to a book
The time has finally arrived for you to be rude. As bad as it may sound, but you will have to do so. Remember how with every visit of theirs they have given you a flaring blood pressure with their incessant interference. Simply go to a balcony and start reading a novel. There is absolutely no need of you to go inside and join your relatives. Infact locking up yourself in the balcony with your book would be an even better idea. Seclude yourself from their presence. Let them think whatever they wish to about you.
- Turn the tables
Every interfering relative that you would ever come across seems to have a pattern of turning the conversation. They turn the conversation in such a way that no sooner it revolves around you and your life. By now you surely have been well acquainted with their tactic of doing so. As soon as you sense them trying to subvert the conversation towards you, strike a question to them about them. Turn the entire discussion in such a way that it becomes only about them and not about you. This may require a lot of mindwork. But after having undergone years and years of scrutiny now you surely would ace this one.
- Do not enter your house
Count yourself lucky if you get to know about the arrival of your favourite relatives, when you are somewhere outside. Call and let someone at your place know that you would be unable to make it to your home on time to meet those relatives. Just to add a touch of genuineness to your lie you can also apologize for being unable to come.
- Pets can come to rescue too
At times you might end up finding yourself in an unfamiliar territory. In your relative’s place you barely would be able to seclude yourself in a corner of the house or in a balcony. There you are obliged to be socializing and be civil with them. In such dire circumstances there is one thing that might help you out and that is a pet. If you are lucky enough, your relative might be having a pet at their house. Go and play with that pet for it is a savior in disguise. Taking the pet out for a walk would also be a very safe option for you.
- Accompany the young members
Everyone may not be having pets at their place, but having children in the household is more likely to be possible. Take advantage of the presence of children in the house. Go and mingle with them so as to escape from your ever-inquisitive relatives. Slowly and slowly befriend their lot. Take them out on a little ice cream treat or a ride at the swings in the nearby park. Someone has rightly said that children are yet another form of God. Jokes apart, this idea is very easy to be carried out. All you need is to mingle amongst them quickly.
- Prior engagements
Sad enough but you have a doctor’s appointment or a parent teacher meeting to attend exactly on the day of your relative’s arrival. You must take opt for this excuse as a sure way out of the nuisance that you end up dealing with whenever they are around. The next time you receive a phone call, be regretful and state your prior engagements. Remember to do so with great consideration and in an apologizing tone.
If you thought avoiding your interfering relatives was barely a possibility, then now you would be proven wrong. For all you know, they might even soon stop poking their nose in your life. Fingers crossed!