Good manners will open doors that best education cannot. -Clarence Thomas
Gone are the days when promotions were solely based on one’s degrees. With ever-growing competition, hard work and degrees don’t suffice for a promotion. To climb up the ladder, except from performing to your full potential you must adhere by some mannerisms, being well-mannered doesn’t only make you more presentable , but also more desirable. It helps you make a mark for yourselves. As Ralph Waldo Emerson says “ Life is short, but there is enough time for courtesy” , be courteous by keeping the following work etiquettes in mind and see how they change your life for better.
It’s the most desirable trait not only in an employee but also a person. Punctuality displays a person’s respect for his work and his coworkers. When you’re on time, you give an impression of being committed, sincere and interested in your work whereas being late shows that your approach to work is casual and you’re disrespectful of others and their time. Being punctual, doesn’t only mean being on time at meetings or office but it also means to complete work before deadlines. If you keep postponing your work, you’re promotion will keep getting postponed. IST ( Indian Stretchable Time) never works in your favor, at least not at work.
9. Be friendly-
Respect everyone, be it your juniors, interns or even the peons and helpers at your office. Always talk to everyone politely. Remember, everyone has their own opinion, learn to respect it and don’t enforce yours on any. Help others, take help, share stories, get to know others’, express emotions and be sensitive others’. Interact, make friends, and don’t forget that, eye contact and a smiling face are the keys to woo a person, maintain that.
8. Don’t be over friendly-
Being friendly doesn’t mean that you forget that you need to maintain certain decorum in a workplace. Be friendly but be formal as well, never use slang and cuss words while talking to your colleagues. Keep physical contact minimal and though, it’s good to share your stories, know about others, don’t reveal too much nor be too nosy in others’ life. Office gossip is a strict no-no if you want an appraisal.
7.Dress for success
Sadly, it’s not all about talent and hard work, your appearance does matter! Though many companies today don’t have a strict dress code and some even allow its employees to wear casuals, make sure you don’t go to office like you go to a park or a wedding. Being neat and sober is the key. Make sure your clothes are well ironed and not too gaudy and bright. Choose crisp shirts and well tailored blouses. Women must make sure not to over accessorize and keep it subtle with a stylish watch, small earrings or a simple pendant. And as it’s said, your hairstyle can make or break your look, make sure that your hair is neat and clean. If your hair are heavy and long, don’t wear them down, men must make sure that there hair are well trimmed or well gelled. Both men and women must make sure that hair doesn’t fall on their face and they must pin or gel any loose stands that might distract them from work. Talking of distractions, I won’t say a women wearing revealing clothes, can cause distraction but it can certainly make people think (both men and women) of a woman in not a very respectable manner and hence decreasing her chances of promotion. (Yes, human mind is sick.)
6. Language matters
Be generous with words like “Please”, “Thank you’” and “sorry”, they don’t make you sound inferior but humble. As I mentioned in a previously, don’t use slang and cuss words, use a language you and your co workers are comfortable in and please never fake an accent, it makes you look funny and no management encourages wannabes.
5. Body language too
Your body language is as important as your language; body language is something that only the other person can notice and not you, yourselves. That’s why one has to be extra cautious with it. Most importantly, always keep your back straight, while walking, while working, while eating etc. When talking to someone, maintain an eye contact and never cross your arms; crossed arms give an impression of you being closed to others’ opinion. According to a survey, the first thing most interviewers notice about an interviewee are his/her legs, a person who shakes legs displays under confidence and nervousness , and an under confident person isn’t desirable, so next time you check in your office make sure to keep your body in check.
4. Have an opinion
Yes; express your thoughts and emotions. Participate in discussions going on in office; don’t be afraid to put forward your ideas or opinions, no matter how stupid they might seem to you. When you feel that you or someone is being mistreated , raise your voice against it ( but never your volume) It’s good to be nice but surfeit of anything is bad. Try not to be a yes master type. Overnice people allow others to use them as doormats. Learn to give importance to yourself. The world will follow suit.
3. Learn to listen
By having an opinion doesn’t mean you won’t pay attention anyone else’s, learn to listen to others and respect their ideas and opinions. When someone is talking, don’t cut them in the middle, if you need say something, let them finish first. There are times when your opinion isn’t much needed but you are still expected to participate in the conversation, at such times, listen to others patiently, listening to others helps to widen your horizons and makes you a tolerant individual.
2. The cell phone etiquette
As soon as you enter the office put your cell phone on silent; you don’t want your cell phone to play that cheesy ringtone while you’re in a meeting. Try not to take too many personal calls and even if have to take one, either personal or one related to work, don’t let the phone office know by talking on top of your voice. And yes, no selfies, at least not in front of your boss.
1.Be a team player
Though promotion is an individual affair, never be selfish. When you’ve an idea in mind, share it with others, seek others’ view on it and value it. ‘Flexibility is the key to a relationship and good social behaviour, ‘ opined Dale Carnegi. You can have your opinion but remember that every opinion has a counter opinion. Respect others’ viewpoints and don’t put your foot down that you’re right. You cannot be right all the time. Accept others’ opinions in a sporting manner even if you’ve reservations. Share your success with others and don’t point fingers during the time of failures. Remember that in collective good, lies your own good as well. Be loyal to the company and the company will be loyal to you.
By following all these mannerisms you might be compromising with your comfort zones but sacrifices have to be made in order to gain success, without compromise there is no chance ( no, no pun intended). All the best !!