Hubby, Love, darling, sweetheart are different lovey-dovey names that wives use to call their husbands. It might sound bookish to you but a husband is not only your companion for life but your best friend too. He is someone who understands you, who promises to stay with you in sickness and health. Almost every girl since her childhood dreams of the tall, dark and handsome man who would take her along in a new world. But girls, this urge of getting married should not cloud your mind and so, you must look for some basic qualities before deciding that he is the one. Here are some tips for you –
- PASSIONATE BUT NOT INSANE
A passionate relationship is where you have a constant urge of seeing your partner, those back bench romances seem like a daily activity, hand in hand walks and trust me I can go on talking about many things. I hope you guys can relate to it now. Girls have a desire of getting a partner who is passionate and serious about their relationship but girls, please watch out, your partners seriousness should not turn into insaneness. He should be caring and protective but not over-protective. He should make efforts to keep the relationship but not at the cost of your friends or relatives. If he is not of good opinion of your male friends, then all I can say is “all the best!
If you are going to become a husband soon then this my dear friend is a point that should get imprinted in your mind. Believe me this is the like Chapter 1 of the Golden book of your life. Girls are nowhere less than a child. We girls just love to get pampered and the people that pamper us are the favourite ones. Spoil your girl, cook for her, surprise her with gifts, roses, chocolates or you can even plan a surprise date. The smile and the satisfaction that a girl gets when she is pampered is almost the best and the most pious one.
A man who calls you just to ask you how your day was and tells you almost every minute detail of his day and tries sharing all his problems is worth keeping. If he tries to uphold the vows that he took on the day of your marriage, he is the faithful one. Such a man will not only be a good listener (which we women need the most) but also a good keeper and a great “human being”
- RESPECTS YOUR FAMILY
Being in a relationship is not a duty rather a chance to know someone and get yourself known. Similarly being a husband is no foreign science. You should respect her parents in the way you respect yours because it’s she who left her house to make your house a paradise. It’s she who accepted you and your family with a big heart. Respecting her parents equally would just be a way of saying thank you to her for all what she is doing for your family.
- MAN OF WORDS
Saying “I LOVE YOU!” is easy but proving it is like cracking hard nuts. These three magical words do work magically but only if mean them. For me, a man who is not hypocrite and proves what he says, automatically becomes more attractive. You might have heard “Promises are meant to be broken” but if you want to be a good life partner learn only this idiom “A promise breaker is shoemaker.” Trust me you might be one if you ditch her on the last moment for any plan.
- ACCEPTS YOU IN THE WAY YOU ARE
Girls if you are thinking about getting married to a judgemental jerk then its better being single forever. Actually no! There is no need to punish yourself, go for a better one. Go for someone who accepts you in the way you are. Guys the first step of being a good husband is loving her the way she is. Don’t judge her. She might be a bit darker or plummy or may be a bit shorter than any other girl. She might not be the most beautiful girl in the world but she might be the one who could brighten up your world.
You might have seen an advertisement on the television where a guy honestly tells his fiancé that her dance performance was better during the practice. The aim of this example is not to promote any brand or something. The aim is to suggest you guys to be honest with her. We girls do love compliments but only those which you really mean. Be her admirer and her critic. Help her in correcting flaws. There are many people to please her with fake appreciation. You are different from the lot and show that difference.
- RESPECTS YOUR OPINION
Each and every one in this world carries a perception which might not be similar to other people. We all have a different outlook towards different things and therefore finding someone who respects your opinion along with his own is a difficult task. Guys if she is important to you, show it to her. Involve her in daily activities, listen to her and respect her views and opinion. They might sound rubbish sometimes but I am sure you can tolerate it for her.
Humor is not when you laugh at your partner, it’s when you laugh with your partner. If your partner has humor, girl you are never going to get bored. People love having erotic conversations but you can’t always be romantic I guess. Sometimes you ought to act like friends and a funny, smile inducing conversation can surely make up your day.
- TRUSTS YOU
The key to a successful relationship is mutual trust and understanding. I personally have seen people checking their partner’s personal messages and various social media sites which according to me is not done. You guys must have your personal space too. If you really feel the need of keeping a check on your partner then I’m sorry but your relationship lacks trust. Show her the signs of being trustworthy and trust her and everything would be like a perfect icing on the cake
- NO TAKEN FOR GRANTED BUSSINESS
Yes! She cooks for you daily, she cleans and maintains your house and takes care of children but that doesn’t means that it’s her job to these things. She is doing these things because she holds herself responsible for the well-being of your family, and taking her “for granted” is not something that suits a real gentleman. She is not a thing to be commodified, she still deserves to be treated as a special girl of your life.
Being with her when she needs you is not enough, being with her even when you are not required is a quality of being supportive. Push her to do things that she wants to, even if she is reluctant to do them now.
- PRIORITISE HER
I have already told you that we are girls are like kids and we love being pampered. All she needs is your time, love and care. If in any difficult situation you choose to stay with her, she is going to hold your back no matter what. Guys if she feels that she is the most important person in your life then I guess you are the happiest husband in this world and if you are still not prioritizing her then come on! its still not too late to be the happiest husband.
- NO PHYSICAL ABUSES
Okay! We have got patriarchal society, you guys are considered superior to women but that doesn’t makes us your slave. Touch her to show love and not to establish you dominance. She is just like a fragile flower. If you handle it with care you get the aroma if you crush you are a stupid!
- LOVES YOU UNCONDITIONALLY
The best kind of relationships are “no complaints, no demands” type relationships. When you love someone unconditionally, you give that person almost everything without their demands. Unconditional love is the purest form of love in this world. The man who treats your wish as his command is like a jackpot for you girl!