“Date!” This single word pours in a lot of mixed feelings. Excitement, jumpiness, elation, nervousness, pangs of panic and what not! Every emotion seems to fall in the pool at the same time. We smile ear to ear at one point and at other moment we lose our nerve. Love blooms in our heart. Butterflies twirl in our stomach. But we may even have some bitter recollections from the last dating times. In haste we do some not-to-be-done things.
A date doesn’t turn into a “perfect” one until you yourself make it happen to be. To have sweet memories you should put your efforts in the right direction.
Know these small yet significant secrets. Charm up your date-life with our 20 ways on how to be a better date!
20. Sketch out your date!
This is the first step in becoming a better date. You must plan the date. You don’t want your day to run you or ruin your date. So save the date when you don’t have a weighty meeting or tightly scheduled meet-ups. Asking your date-mate about their free time will be a delightful pre-date impression.
19.Exchange information about each other!
Nobody is perfect and if you instill downbeat personality traits it will be best to put them down before your date mate. Text-chatting about them before the actual date may help to set things straight. If you are an introvert let it be a known attribute to your companion. It repels the assumption that you are least interested. Being short-tempered, unpunctual etc. can be few to name.
18. Pick up your date site!
Your date bliss and date place are correlated. Whether you want to tap your feet together or say “cheers” together? Whether you want a peaceable or busy place? Have a pre-hand talk with your companion-to-be to avoid time drainage and infuriating waiting period.
17. Dress up to the best!
You see your partner and your jaw drops! But was it out of disappointment or excitement? Well!
Don’t dress up to look out of the place. Yes, it’s your date but a guy in suit and a girl in straight gown is definitely a no no! Also, don’t be attired as if it’s another monotonous day. A posh lounge calls sophisticated looks while a movie-date needs to be lightly clothed! Smell pleasant!
16. Respect time!
You automatically earn a point at becoming a good date by showing up on time. Not being punctual can be disappointing turn-off. When you are late, it exhibits your laid-back attitude towards them. It may even seem disrespectful. So see them on time else your impression decays.
15. Wear a smile!
Imagine spending hours with a person having no smile throughout. Boring, no? So stick a smile and add charm to both the face and the date. It tells your mate that you feel festive about you two being together. Smile invites good vibes at no cost!
14. Kick in and keep on the conversation!
It’s a date! Don’t keep mum. It will only give you awkwardness as memories of this date. Try to know your date-mate. Ask about their fantasies, dream and dream destinations, favorite recreational activities and anything that would make time fly away and spark things between you.
13. Reveal and not brag about yourself!
Of course you want to mention all your laurels and tell your companion that you are “awesome”. But know the thin line of difference about telling and boasting about you. Go with the flow and let such things erupt from the topic of your “significant” school/college/office memories.
12. Work out the “touch”!
A good and lust free dating person knows where, when, how and how much to touch your partner and their things. Keep your hands off their mobile phone, wallet and whatsoever they bring along. Also, nobody likes the “touchy” person. Do not reach their face and the places that can devastate your date.
11. Hike the thrill!
Your dating time has to be an interesting event. Make it so exciting that your partner doesn’t want it to end. Discern the cherished activities of him/her. A movie lover would feel rejoiced at a cinema hall, a food fanatic would relish a new eatery, a spectator would live the moment in an exhibition or how about a long drive and create an amazing playlist? Even if you don’t know them ask them there and then and follow up!
10. Shun 1 word replies!
You definitely want to mount up compatibility and chemistry with your date-partner. So be equally participative in the communication and make them feel that you are interested in them. Answering them with monosyllables would only make it a hard job for them to carry on the date. Remember two people came for the date and not one. Be a zealous communicator!
9. Shower attention!
Pay your undivided attention to your date-mate. Avoid all distractions. Checking out another girl/guy would be an awful idea. Pass subtle compliments like, “That’s a nice watch! I could not help appreciating your choice.” Don’t go overboard with flattering that it induces the flirt factor. “Attention” really is the best gift!
8. Pocket your mobile phone!
Your partner is either texting or answering the phone calls every then and now. What do you do? Roll the eyes and feel stormy? So don’t ever make your partner go through this. This will be the time to weigh your priorities! If it is really urgent, take a moment and come back real fast. Nobody wants to keep waiting for long.
7. Weave positive vibes!
Don’t be the negativities factory. You might have had a heated argument with your boss, got envy at the colleague’s pay-cheque or met other not invited incident just before your date. But push them to the backseat for now. Your partner isn’t looking for a dull, annoyed, mad, hot-headed and cold-hearted person.
6. Wake up the jokey you!
Things around you may want to act odd at special times. It’s OK to jitter then. We all do. If you trip onto the floor, stammer, go hands off the cutlery or spill your drink, try to crack a joke about it. You may cover it up by saying, “Your charisma is making me lose my control on my senses.”
5. Don’t become the greedy-needy!
Love at first sight sounds cute but not everybody feels so. You may see your soulmate in them but they may not reciprocate the feelings. Avoid awkward moments following up by saying, “I will die without you” so early. Give them their needful time. Let your outings bring you both closer. So never be desperate about fetching love. Let love crawl up to you.
4. Be the payer!
It has become an obvious notion that the guy attends the bill. Girls, even you may step forward because even you availed the benefit of this date. Don’t make the attendant wait for your decision. Handle it with generosity and if you are not the one paying, you may do the next one.
3. Make politeness your hallmark!
Treat others the way you want yourself to be treated. Kindness always wins the heart. Show concern to your partner. Make them feel at ease. Also, your benevolent behavior towards the attendant and other people speaks volume about your personality. Don’t crib about the choice of food or place etc. Deal politely!
2. Happen to be honest!
Lies have a short lifespan. There’s no point to brag with a false foundation. You will be caught one day and you will lose all the love and good remarks. Honest people always go a long way in their relationships. So believe in ‘No Lies! No Worries!’
1. Post date care!
Everything went great! The date was a beautiful time spent together and now you are at your own places. It DOES NOT end here. To be on their minds constantly and to have a happily ever after with your date-mate, keep sprinkling your care. Drop them a “thank you” text or the like thoughtful conversation.
So now you know the essence of becoming a better date person, be an amazing one! Good luck! Wishing you love from your love!