Everyone is scared to face their 30th birthday. It might feel like the start of the apocalypse to you but it is in actual fact only the beginning of an amazing new phase. More to the point it marks a stage in your life where everyone starts genuinely believing that you’re a capable adult, even if that isn’t true yet!
Whether you’re a person that has it all together or you’re still riding the roller coaster of life there are some things that can help you on your way. There are simple things that can make the journey to your thirties a bit smoother. If you can find a way to integrate these rituals into your life, the big day will never worry you, and if living healthy just isn’t your type of motivator, just remember that you can boss people around a lot more if you look like you know what you’re doing!
- Know your strengths –
It’s a common habit to overestimate your own abilities only to realise later that you’ve bitten off more than you can chew. Make it a habit to be conscious of your strengths as well as your flaws, it will prove useful in every area of your life. Although it is always difficult to step back and analyse yourself objectively try to let go of false confidence and accept the areas where you need some help. It will make what had been seemingly unconquerable problems a bit more manageable. If you revaluate yourself regularly and keep learning what you excel in as well as knowing your limitations makes tackling everyday problems lot easier.
- Trust yourself –
While growing up, we rely heavily on the opinions of the people around us to shape our attitudes. Many decisions are made based on the beliefs of your parents, siblings or friends, but as you approach the big 3-0 it becomes important to start taking control. Putting your faith in yourself and making your choices based on your own beliefs can bring a wonderful sense of liberation. Managing your own life and shaping your future is a true testament to your independence. By asserting your self-confidence every day you can develop much more control over your own life.
- Organise your life –
The days of stashing your money in the sock drawer and eating off paper plates are behind you. Now is the chance to start managing your money and saving for the future. By prioritising your funds and keeping a daily log of your payments you might actually find yourself with more money at the end of the month. So instead or ordering in every night, try your hand at some grocery shopping (it’s not as scary as it looks). And instead of buying that adorable new hoodie, try paying your internet bill on time. Develop good spending habits early means learning to save money early. It is guaranteed to pay off in the end.
- Adventure is out there –
One of the greatest parts of getting older is having the liberty to make your own adventures. (Nights of partying that you barely remember don’t count as adventure!). By making a choice to encounter new things you will find the world around you is filled with excitement. These experiences can be any size you want. You could plan ahead and create a wonderful journey to a foreign country or even just take a day to get lost in your city. Whatever the proportion of your exploits, learn to take chances and enjoy your life every single day.
- Set achievable goals –
While dreaming big and imagining your life as a billionaire or a superstar is always fun, it’s also wildly impractical. A better idea is to visualise your dream but only plan one step at a time. By knowing what your next step is and making informed choices, you can slowly build your own road to success. When you set many smaller goals and make it a habit to do a small amount of work every day, you can enjoy the feeling of constantly moving forwards. You probably won’t achieve your dream overnight but by working towards your final goal it might become a bit easier to reach.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff –
Nobody’s perfect, so trust in the fact that one day the mistakes you made will be distant memory. Stress is a danger to both your mental and physical health so it’s time to put the misplaced teen angst to rest. Permanently. Don’t let minor troubles anger you or get you down, there are many ways to focus and calm your mind. Some good ways to develop your inner peace are practicing yoga of taking up a calming hobby such as painting. By doing these activities on a regular basis you’ll see a noticeable change in your demeanour.
- Make an effort –
Although spending the whole weekend in bed with your laptop seems like a great idea on Friday night, by Monday morning you’re probably going to regret it. So every time you want to sit around and do nothing, try to do something productive instead. By actually taking the time to get things done you will feel a sense of accomplishment that will give you warm fuzzy feelings for days. So instead of the epic F.R.I.E.N.D.S marathon you had planned, finish off the household chores or get ahead of your workload, so you have that free time when you really need it. Monica would approve.
- Only true smiles –
You know that friend you fake a smile and laugh with while secretly wishing you were literally anywhere else? Yeah, it’s time to ditch them. Your time is too important to waste with people you don’t like. Whether these are people you don’t trust, truly hate or have simply outgrown, you have to learn to let them go and focus on the relationships that really matter to you. Try to be congenial to people around you and avoid unnecessary conflicts. By keeping your outlook and daily interactions full of joy and keeping unpleasant behaviour to a minimum your life will be much healthier.
- Think fit–
The carefree habits of your 20’s will eventually start catching up with you so it’s a great idea to attack first! Don’t panic though, you don’t need to say goodbye to indulging in beers and burgers. The answer lies in moderating those unhealthy eating or drinking habits and making a conscious effort to exercise a bit every day. Being healthy does not mean refraining from everyday comforts but means taking regular and proper care of your body and treating it with the respect it deserves; it involves finding a balance to ensure that you stay on top form the many years to come.
- Nurture your passions –
There is little point in living if you don’t do what you love. Examine your life and find out what makes you happy and try to integrate these things into your daily routine. It could be as small as watching the sunrise or carving out time to play with your pet. By making these happy moments a part of your ritual you will find that every day is happier when there’s something to look forward to and as a bonus happier, stress-free people also tend to live longer.