Among different phases of one’s life on this planet, parenthood is one of the most challenging as well as a beautiful stage that gives another dimension to one’s personality and life. Becoming a parent is a beautiful life experience. This phase often takes a significant part of our lives covers almost the complete spectrum of emotions which we did not know existed within ourselves — our world changes with the onset of this phase- parenthood. Parent’s become our first teachers, our pathfinders and an embodiment of how we wish to see ourselves in the future. Our interaction with the mortal world or the adult world is through our parents, and the way we behave and the values we follow in life too are inherited from them. With all of its importance, this phase also brings in sleepless nights and hectic days. Being a good parent stands as a challenge to almost every individual as he or she continually faces new emotions and situations in day to day’s life. There are some qualities; however, that makes this journey of parenthood a bit smoother both for the parent and the child. These qualities not just establish a real sense of bonding but also are a must if you want to cherish this phase lifelong.
Written below are the top ten qualities parents must have-
Patience is something very essential for an individual. It is crucial to have patience with your children if you want to establish an amicable relationship with your child. It is often seen that parents grow impatient when children try to learn something new. They are just children, ignorant and often unaware of their ignorance. It is vital that a parent should have the required amount of patience to deal with them while children make mistakes.
Mildness is another trait that should be present in a parent. Scolding helps but only on certain or extreme times. If a parent continually behaves frustrating or in an irritated manner with the child, chances are less that he or she will ever share his or her problems with the parent. Nobody loves aggression. Moreover, they may feel repelled from their parents if the latter is irritated or frustrated all the time. Strictness or harshness could only lead to a weakening of relationships.
In today’s world where everybody is extremely busy in their own lives, struggling to balance their personal and professional lives, quality time is significant to keep intact the attachment with the child. If a parent does not spend enough time, he or she does not get to witness the child’s complete growth process. It is artful as well as essential to make the child feel loved in the short period available in the guardians’ busy schedule
A parent needs to be very vigilant regarding the development of there child. A parent should know what is essential for the child at a particular point in time. A parent should not only be attentive regarding the child’s growth but also regarding his or her surroundings. A parent must learn to be alert to the child’s conversation because he or she expresses their feelings or open their heart only in front of there parents. Attention and unconditional love are perhaps the least of things that parents can offer to their children. Often a child does not share his or her problems with an adult, more so the parent. It is imperative for children to create a strong bond of trust and understanding which can only come if the parents are a pair of an attentive listener. Also, by giving adequate attention to the child, parents can even read the mind of their children easily.
5.Non-Violence Attitude Towards A Child
The conscience of a child is profoundly and perhaps the most affected by the attitude of the parents. Children will never forget throughout their lives regarding the harsh ways used by the parents to punish them like beating, hitting, use of abusive words. This attitude of parents let children become very rude, cruel and worse in their life because they are grown up in such a situation. Such a situation will stop a child’s development. Either the child turns disrespectful towards elders or becomes abusive in the later phase of his own life. Along with psychological complexities such as the Inferiority Complex and social anxiety, are also some mental illnesses that forge in such a situation. It is, therefore, essential and probably a must for parents to have a non-violent, non-abusive relationship with the child.
Parents set an example for their kid of how adult relationships are. They are the first people a child really interacts with. In fact,it is through the parents that the child learns to communicate to the adult world at the first place. The parents’ behavior with each other teaches children the behavior they follow with their fellow mates. Therefore it is immensely important that parents behave in a respectful manner with each other in front of their children.
7.Frank And Understandable
One common quality that lacks in most of the families of this country is the lack of openness and understanding. People tend to follow the conventional image of strict parents and consequently in most cases the child turns to be an introvert. There is scarcely any sex education at home, as parents shoo away from the ‘taboo-ed’ words. This avoidance only adds to the ignorance of the children who then, refer to external and often wrong sources for help. An extreme lack of open-ness and understanding may lead the child’s mind to feel claustrophobic in his or her own house eventually leading to suicidal thoughts. It is therefore a must that parents maintain an open and understanding relationship with the child where they could feel free to put forth their opinions and talk about what they think and feel.
8.Flexible And Empathy
Parents need to be flexible while taking any decision on the child’s idea or thought. Many regressive parents tend to restrict their children from certain things or activities that are generally allowed in their friend circle. When children find that only they are being deprived of something and not others, it forms a negative impact on the parent-child relationship. Gradually, They will start participating in different things without letting parents know every day. This becomes very unhealthy and undesirable on the child’s part. The parent should be flexible enough to accept the child’s ideas and thought untill the decision is not creating any negative impact on the child, family or environment. Parents should understand the child by putting themselves on a child’s place and then they should take the decision.
We all know that excellent citizen makes good parents. This demands parents to be literate if not educated or at least aware of the socio-economic conditions in which they live. The parent should be mindful of there surrounding circumstances which help to make children more intellectual. Being informative parents helps to mold their children according to the need of the hour. Aware parents form aware citizens and vice versa which is probably the most immediate need of the hour.
It is our parents who are our very first teachers. We tend to adopt and follow their principles in life. It is therefore essential for parents to teach their children the human values such as that of kindness, generosity, honesty, and humility. It can only be possible when parents themselves have these qualities in them. As they say, the purpose of education is to build the character. And parents play a huge role in the process as they teach us from their own life experiences outside the arena of the curriculum. It is, therefore, a must in parents to be good human beings so that they can mold their children to be so too.
Parenthood is one of the most fortunate things that can happen to an individual and by teaching these few ‘must’ qualities, parenthood can prove to be one of the most smooth and growing processes too!