Low moments are bound to come in everyone’s life. It might be the death of a loved one, separation from a beloved, terrible financial loss and so on and so forth. Sometimes moments like these result in such a blow that the person is never able to recover or so s/he thinks. To the person it seems that the sorrow that he has been pushed into by his fate is eternal and would end only with death. Everything comes to a standstill and the only thing that flashes in mind is the thought to overcome that one irreversible grief. The person her/himself becomes a reason of that death and takes away her/his life. There is one truth that sadly the person fails to realize and as a result succumbs to ignorance. S/he does not realize that every grief that we encounter in life, no matter how magnanimous it is, is only temporary. There is no permanence to happiness and neither to sadness. Life is a carousal that keeps on turning with its moments of glee and despondence. This is something that needs to be understood. If you ever find yourself coming across negative incomprehensible thoughts which end up in ideas of suicide, then do yourself a huge favour. Read the ten reasons listed below and you would understand why suicide is not an option. It never was.
- Dishonoring God’s gift
You may be an atheist if you choose to be. But at a point of time you would find yourself questioning your existence. It would be then that you would come to believe in a reason behind it. The reason would surely surpass the mere fact that your parents brought you in this world. There is yet another greater reason which sooner or later you would realize. All of us are sent to life in order to fulfill some duty or the other. Everybody here is on a mission. And that mission has been assigned to all of us by that one divine force. Call him God, call him anything. Taking away your life in the midst of your unaccomplished duty would be dishonoring that one divine power. There cannot be a greater sin, a greater offense. Live your life attending to your calling. He gave you life, he will take it. You are not the one to do that.
- Think of all the close friends
Everyone has a bunch of close peers, even if the person is the most shy one in her/his group. You might decide on ending your life being overwhelmed by some incident. You might be dead and long gone, but there would be these people left behind. What would also be left behind would be a scar in their hearts that would traumatize them for the rest of their lives. Yes, they would learn to live without you but would never stop yearning for your presence beside them. Are you really up for incurring such pain to them?
- Do your parents deserve this?
They brought you up with great care and love. Though at times it might have become impossible for you to guess that they dot on you. Your parents might not show it, but you are the one thing that matters the most to them in this big wide world. Can you ever bring yourself to imagine the amount of grief and tragedy you would be inflicting upon them by bringing an end to your existence? They nurture and bring you up in the hope of seeing you have a future someday. Parents deserve to be happy and proud of their child and not miserable. Be open to them, go ahead and talk. At times, it only takes a talk to get rid of all sorts of negative thoughts.
- Your sibling’s life would be blemished forever
You grew up with them. They know your darkest secret and you know theirs. No matter if they are the big one or the younger one, they will be moved by your absence beyond description. There would be vacuum in their life with you no longer in it. How is one supposed to fill such a vacuum? Who will they turn up to when in need of reminiscing about the good old childhood days or to complain about midnight hunger attacks. There will be no other ‘you’ for them. Save your siblings from such a traumatized life by making sure that you live.
- Look around
Waking up every morning to the sound of the birds is precious to all. Then there is the change of seasons to enjoy. Wherever you are and whatever has engulfed you lately, these things would always remain. If you are looking for something constant, then hold on to these. Hold on to these beautiful and enchanting aspects of nature. They are not being worth given up. Killing away yourself would also kill your everyday luck of experiencing these.
- You will be taken for a coward
Nobody but you knows best what you suffer in the face of a low moment in life. Nobody but you would have known what made you go for such a drastic step. Sadly, your truth would die with you. People might feel pity in their hearts for your family and friends that you have left behind, but they would also not deter from feeling what a coward you have been. No matter what your trouble had been, the one thing that people resort to as conclusion is that troubles are meant to be battled with. Not everyone can be wrong if this is the belief of the mass. Deliberate upon this with yourself.
- Letting go of all future prospects
Ending life midway is of course the worst idea possible. You judge the value and the worth of your life by the incidents happened so far. What you do not know is that your life may have an absolutely different colour to it in the later phase of it. If you refrain yourself from giving up, then you would get to experience all the colors that life has in store for you. Let life show you that it is an amalgam of mixed experiences, and not all of them have to be detestable. All that is required of you is to not give up on your patience.
- May end up in debilitating you physically
One may never know of the lifelong pain and tragedy s/he is about to incur upon her/himself. You might try your best to end your very existence. But things can go topsy-turvy and you may end up being alive yet physically disabled in some way or the other. As a result of your suicidal attempt, there can be chances that you end up harming yourself physically for your entire life. There can be ghastly consequences which would be even worse than death itself.
- Post suicide depression
Things become worse for those who attempt to kill themselves and fail at the trial. By the time you are able to realize what you did to yourself, everybody around in your neighborhood already would have known about it. You are no more the plain college going or the working neighbor to them, but the one who tried to commit suicide. Your very identity would be replaced by the one decision you made. You might end up longing for your old self to return back, but the reaction of those around including your very near ones, would not let you. Things would change for worse. There will be a pity and sympathetic look in everybody’s face while approaching to you. This would lead you to post-suicide depression and this would become yet another hurdle.
- All your aspirations would be abandoned
Since childhood we foster some dream or the other which changes rapidly over the due course of time. Finally, we realize our real dream and what we aspire to achieve from life. In the face of constant trouble and tragedy crossing our way, we tend to forget about those aspirations of ours. Those were the same aspirations that we nurtured as our very own child. What would become of those if we were to bring an end to our lives? They would be abandoned with nowhere to reach. They will die with you. Aspirations are meant to soar high in the sky for they don’t deserve a death.
When the going gets tough, make yourself tougher. And live through it.