Someone quite rightly said once, that the fears we do not face are what limit us. Nevertheless, we all have our fears. What may sound like silly, juvenile reasons to be afraid to some, might just be huge challenges to others. Some are scared of the dark, some of spiders and some of height. While some fears grow and develop into phobias, other remain tiny and secretly significant hidden away in the depths of people’s personalities.
Everyone has fears, adults and children alike. There is quite an interesting group of people who share a common fear and this group is the student community at large. Regardless of school, class, city, country, all students have a few common fears. It might be interesting to find out a little more about these.
- How will my new roommate be?
This is perhaps one of the most common fears all students face right before college or boarding school. We all realise that staying away from home can be challenging and upsetting. Leaving the comforts of your own home, familiar surroundings and above all, family can be hard. So, it is actually quite important to be comfortable with your new surroundings. And of course your new surroundings will have your new roommate. Now, this new roommate will obviously not be like your annoying sibling whom you can bicker with endlessly and complain to your parents about, yet love to bits. You will have to adjust with him anyhow. Hence, having a roommate with whom your wavelength of thoughts match is crucial to enjoying a stable and conducive student life. And if he is fun, there can be nothing better!
- Does the teacher hate me?
No matter how naughty, all students want to be in the good books of their teachers. Everyone knows how difficult a teacher can make a student’s life once he gets into trouble. And this fear is heightened when a student likes a particular teacher. Say your favourite subject is Math. You would naturally want your Math teacher to like you. So, this insecurity about teachers disliking a student is pretty common.
- Parent-teacher meetings
All students, from kindergarten to high school are petrified of their guardians meeting with their teachers. All the trouble they cause their teachers will be unravelled before their parents and they will go home and definitely get rapped or grounded. Nothing good can ever come out of parents meeting teachers. Worst still, both parties would get the opportunity to exchange notes and together get them in trouble. Oh no!
- Principal meeting parents
If there is anything worse than teachers meeting parents, it is principals meeting parents. Now, this is not an annual meeting that is supposed to take place. The Principal only meets a student’s parents if he is in some serious trouble. And that calls for a double dose of serious trouble. No peace in school and no peace at home! So, all children in school, however mischievous, always try their best to stay out of the Headmaster’s hair.
One’s student life is incomplete without crushes. Tiny crushes and infatuations form a vital part of one’s school life. The question of whether their crush likes them back followed by the feeling of knots forming in their stomachs is something all of us have felt. The anxiety before approaching your crush, talking to them, maybe asking them out and the fear of getting shot down is truly one of the most memorable feelings from school.
Okay, this is not something that every single student in the world faces. This fear is restricted to those students who feel very strongly about being someone or having a name or holding a position of responsibility in school. Be it running for school captain or captain of the school football team, you are bound to be nervous about being elected. No matter how confident you are or how talented, this is a fear that is present in each student who is running for some position. Perhaps this fear is important as it keeps them grounded and humble and at the same time encourages and inspires them to reach their goal.
- Fear of getting bullied
Be it junior high, high school or college, every student has the fear of getting bullied. More than anything, it is actually the fear of embarrassment. Being publicly humiliated by a senior is pretty embarrassing. And ragging does not end at just that. It is always followed by months of teasing by other classmates and being laughed at by everyone. Honestly, getting ragged is a pretty big fear among students. Some might not admit to it, but it is always there.
- Did I make the right choice?
Questions such as these can eat away at a student and destroy his peace of mind. Self doubt is as serious a problem as it is commonplace. Before getting into a new course or curriculum, each and every student all across the globe has this one question in mind: “Did I make the right choice?” If you have chosen Science, you wonder if Humanities would have been better for you. If you have picked Economics, you doubt if you could have done better in Sociology. These questions are inevitable. The solution is to just make a well thought out and informed decision and stick to it. Self confidence is a rare treasure only few possess.
- Am I good enough?
Similar to the previous kind of fear, this fear is also associated closely with self doubt. The fear of not being good enough is immensely powerful. It can discourage students to even try hard just because they are afraid of losing. What if they disappoint their teachers? What if their parents are ashamed of them? And the worst fear of all: What if they let themselves down? Often, the fear of failure is strong enough to demotivate one to stop trying altogether. They feel that it is better to not put in any effort at all than to try hard and fail. That is considered as embarrassing and disappointing.
- Can I make a difference?
Every human being has within him zeal to make his life count. No matter which way it is in, making a difference to the world is something everyone dreams of. This zeal is more heightened in students. They are at the brink of their lives, learning and growing every second, their brains expanding and vision widening. They dream big. They dream of being great and powerful. They dream of being famous. Students are full of enthusiasm and hope. And then comes the sinking feeling of doubt. Can they? Are they really good enough to make a difference? This is one of the biggest fears hidden in the hearts of each student. Their enthusiasm to be big is as large as their fear of not being capable enough. Such fears can consume one and leave them hollow.
Students will always be scared of failing a test or scoring poorly. But student life has a lot more to it than just tests and grades. The fears mentioned above are only a few of the most common anxieties that all students have faced and will continue facing. Some are juvenile and some grown up. Nevertheless, these fears are a part and parcel of the whole student life experience. So, enjoy it till it lasts!