The sad truth of life is that it is unpredictable. One moment you’re happy, and then suddenly something horrible happens that affects your life negatively. People suffer everyday; trying to cope up with their loss; some successfully, others in vain. More often than not, they are unable to deal with a tragedy; bearing horrible consequences such as depression, alienation and in the worst cases, suicide. Whether it is the demise of a loved one, the end of a romantic relationship, a financial loss, a long academic struggle or a completely different adversity, here are top 10 ways to get through the tough times:
10) Accept the truth
George Orwell said, “Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” The faster you accept the truth, the easier it will be for you to withstand it. So you have failed in an exam. Or your pet has died. Learn to accept the fact instead of being in denial. Yes, something terrible has happened to you and you cannot change it. But you can definitely change your future by working hard and excelling in your weak subjects. Or you can accept the tragic death of your pet so that you can properly grieve and try to move on.
9) Acknowledge your feelings
When a misfortune strikes you, it is absolutely okay to have feelings about it. Do not suppress them. Let them all out. You might feel angry, sad, frustrated, heartbroken, or scared; feel the emotions deeply; try to understand what your heart longs for. John Duffy, PhD and a clinical psychologist said, “Avoiding your negative emotion may feel like an effective stopgap measure, but in fact it simply postpones, and perhaps escalates and exacerbates, a flood of negative emotion sometime in the future.”
8) Surround yourself with loved ones
Getting through tough times can get even more challenging, if you have to deal with it all alone. “Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.” Talking about your discomfort with your loved ones can have a colossal effect on your life. Be it friends or family; your loved ones will see the best in you when you’re at your worst, guide you through darkness and help you perceive the beauty of life. They will take care of you and help you recuperate from your loss faster than you could ever have, alone. Hence, it is very essential to have loving, caring people around you in such trying times. Always seek comfort in them when you can.
7) Tackle your problems
Most of your difficulties can always be solved; try solving them. Your troubles can vary from financial to personal, and can still be solved with a calm and composed mind. Pen down your problems on a piece of paper, along with how you can solve them, and you will find numerous answers in multiple cases. Analyze your solutions, choose the ones tackle your issues most efficiently, and try implementing them as required. You can always switch to another solution if the previous one doesn’t work.
6) Channel your pain for a greater cause
Tough times often test your patience, leaving you exhausted and despondent at the end of the day. Break-ups, accidents, insolvency, or other afflictions can make you angry, miserable and frustrated, all this creating a lot of negative energy. The best way to use your time wisely is to channel all this energy into your hard work and achieve your desired goals. When you can’t eliminate negativity, why not use it for a greater cause? Using your time and energy productively in such situations will not only help you meet your targets, but also alleviate your suffering.
5) Prioritize self-care
People often compromise on their health while dealing with arduous situations. Whether it is the loss of a beloved, or the end of a romantic relationship, they often forget to take showers and skip meals, which affects their health adversely. Marter, who pens the Psych Central blog “The Psychology of Success in Business” said, “Self-care is absolutely necessary to survive tough situations”. If you don’t have time for meals, have some protein bars instead; if you are too depressed to go to the gym, just take a walk around your street. Always try to relieve the tension in your body and pacify the turbulence in your mind. Meditation, massage and power naps are some of the things you should treat yourself to.
4) Consult a therapist
When you think you’ve had a major blow that has left you with nothing but abject grief, do not hesitate to engage in therapy. Whether you have difficulties coping up with loss, or you’re fighting a long battle alone, therapists will help you get through the rough patch. They will support you and ask you questions through which you’ll start viewing life from a different perspective. Not only will they guide you through your vulnerabilities, they will also give you reasons to fight your battle and live life up to your full potential.
3) Always be grateful
Life can throw some major curveballs at you, but it also gives you countless reasons to express gratitude. Learn to appreciate the smaller things that make your life worth living. Practicing gratitude every day brings forth a lot of positiveness within and around you, making it easier for you live life a little more, each passing day. You can appreciate the non-material things in life such as friendships, family, your physical abilities or the beauty of nature. As and when you learn to acknowledge these things, you will find your purpose for existence and strive to move forward in life.
2) Give back to society
The world is a beautiful place to live in; it has offered so much to you; maybe it is time for you to give back. Helping someone in multifarious ways will exponentially increase the feeling of self-satisfaction within you, making your problems look really tiny compared to the plight of others. There are countless ways in which you can give back to society: you can volunteer your time at an animal shelter, work for an NGO, spend some time at an old age home, teach underprivileged kids, or feed the hungry. Doing something for others will give you new reasons to live a happier and healthier life.
1) Never give up
Change is the only constant in our lives. All things come and go; so do the difficult situations. Remember that nothing lasts forever and have some faith in yourself, for knowing this too shall pass will help you get through anything. No matter how rough life gets, never ever give up because that is the worst thing that can happen to you. So change. Adapt. Grow. Be more open. Realize that what is now a mountain to you will soon become a molehill. And never, ever give up, for life is beautiful!